tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37886248.post1171370260646961437..comments2024-03-22T00:35:19.082-07:00Comments on Casual Kitchen: Nine Terrible Ways to Make Choices (That You Probably Didn’t Know You Were Using)Danielhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02388302796031288076noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37886248.post-89741153482222106862017-03-20T05:20:13.086-07:002017-03-20T05:20:13.086-07:00Oh God. I was cringing and wanting to run and hide...Oh God. I was cringing and wanting to run and hide under the nearest table by point 2.<br /><br />I make a lot of choices from within the limitation category. I'm aware of it. Very aware of it. Painfully aware of it. But I still do it, because making a choice and succeeding with a superimposed artificial limitation is easier and much less scary than making a "blue sky" choice and risking potential failure.Climb the Rainbowhttp://www.climbtherainbow.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37886248.post-7259751316726198982017-03-14T20:33:07.471-07:002017-03-14T20:33:07.471-07:00I have made a lot of non-choices and also some con...I have made a lot of non-choices and also some conscious choices in the "limitation" category. Pretty good about avoiding the others. :-)<br /><br />I am self-aware enough to know that the limitations I've placed on myself were not cast in stone: I could have chosen otherwise. I've made a lot of compromises to facilitate things for other people. And I've chosen a line of work that I am really deeply tired of, but by staying in it so long I've seriously limited my ability to move sideways, let alone up.<br /><br />It's a good thing to analyze why you (rhetorical "you") do the things you do. I try not to beat myself up about it, though. It's like the sunk-cost concept: once a decision is made and action taken, some doors may be closed forever. That "money" is gone. So the thing to do is be conscious about WHY the decision was made or the action taken, and to consistently be on the lookout for different doors.<br /><br />In other words, don't fool yourself with some comforting narrative about choosing something because it was "best." Generally, we choose something because it's EASIEST. To avoid conflict, I would say, or the pain of change. We will often choose to stay with the pain we're familiar with rather than risk new pain (physical or emotional, or even financial).<br /><br />It's interesting to ponder how different the public conversation might be if everyone actually thought about WHY they do - and choose - things, isn't it?chacha1http://www.ombailamos.comnoreply@blogger.com